Seeing our life stumbles as sage guides and opportunities allows us to tap into the mojo of the Phoenix Rising within each of us
Who knew I had it in me? I certainly didn’t…until I did.
I want to be a phoenix rising from the ashes when I grow up…says no one (well, at least no one I know). In ancient Greek folklore, the phoenix picked itself up and rejuvenated, no matter what it had been through — in other words, the Energizer Bunny of resilience. And while we’re at it, I don’t want anything about me to stick out like a sore thumb…no dramatic falls or plotlines. No thanks, I prefer a gentler path please. I choose door number 2 instead.
Ha, smirks the Universe.
I guess you could say, in ways, the phoenix blood pumps through each of us. Her energy is there waiting to be tapped, our very own life force to be summoned.
But instead, as children most of us simply wanted to ‘fit in’, to blend in and go with the flow of the status quo. It’s where much of the homogenization of who we were as individuals began, right there on the playground. It’s also where our power began to drain.
I certainly didn’t like being a foot taller than everyone, wearing Coke bottle glasses, having a Lithuanian surname as long as me that no one could pronounce — and getting braces on my teeth when I was in 2nd grade, long before anyone else. No, I didn’t appreciate any of this…not one bit. In fact, I didn’t appreciate anything that drew attention to me.
This was the place where I began to dull myself down in attempt to fit in…as if I could really change any of the above (but that didn’t stop me from trying). Can you relate? Is there a place where this has happened for you…where you just wanted to shrink, to fade into the background and become some implausible version of yourself? Maybe it was at home, at work…even in a relationship?
I really didn’t connect it all until recently. It’s not about blaming anyone. It’s actually about releasing oneself from the clutches of resentments and judgment — reclaiming power and being willing to see it all differently. For me it was the culmination of decades of personal work and healing. It led me back to a young girl who didn’t know her strength and couldn’t really see her beauty, both inner and outer.
It’s led me to understand how she left the comfort of her suburban childhood and went out into the world — and why certain things had to unfold as they did in order for her to shift…to wake up.
Mom was right. All that uniqueness led me to a successful modeling career when I was only 16, but it would take me all the decades of my life thereafter to unravel the how’s and why’s, the life choices and even the life partners that followed. They all played a role, all a part of the production of her life that would lead to the crescendo — the fall.
Let’s talk about ‘the fall’ for a moment. If I had ever had a hypothetical conversation with God and was warned about that one…I would definitely have scrambled and pled for another path. Or would I have? The fall woke me up, as they tend to do. Hindsight.
Remember, it’s not what happens to us, it’s what we do with it. Each day. Each encounter, no matter the size. Don’t roll over on the discomfort of your life and brush it off like it was ‘just a bad day’. Unattended wounds grow ferocious roots that will spread throughout the fabric of your life.
What’s calling you to rise?
Where are you ignoring the whispers from within?
They don’t call it a gut instinct without reason. It’s a superpower, however, it needs to be activated. And when we deny the discomfort, it only increases like a snowball rolling downhill in an avalanche. That avalanche is your life. I’m not saying that all discomfort or all bumps in the road can be avoided. No, that’s not the point. But remember, you have the power to rise up from them, heed their wisdom and experience them in a new way. You also have the power to control the level of suffering you endure. Yep.
Feel into what is unfolding in your life…in your relationships; your relationship to self, your career, your finances, your health. What is trying to reveal itself?
It’s easy to get stuck in the emotions of it all. That’s where the fear, limited-thinking, self-chastising, feeling-sorry-for-ourselves voices come in. The ones that tell us; Oh well, too bad. It’s too late. This is all there is for you.
Is there a place in your life where you feel uneasy, maybe jealous…as if you are watching from the sidelines? Look there and ask, What do I need to see? What do I need to shift? Where do you want me to go? Please help me see — and remind me of my uniqueness and strengths to navigate this all.
It starts there, viewing it through a new lens and with the courage to ask for help. Remember, that phoenix blood pumps through your veins too. I didn’t listen to Mom all those years ago, probably in the same way that much of my wisdom imparted upon my teenage son likely falls upon deaf ears. No one can do this work for us. We get there when we can.
I may have been a reluctant riser…and I’d like to believe I will now see the signs before experiencing another massive fall — but I can also tell you, I do believe in my power to dust those ashes off and rise when and if I need to.
So, I want to leave you with this reminder to your self….
Self: You are more powerful than you know, don’t resist it — rise. Heed the inner stirrings before the fall. Go forth and be your Best Self, because your life is waiting and it is meant to be glorious. Yes, I’m talking to you!
All rise! It is time to tap into your inner phoenix.
Was there a time in your life where you resisted your superpowers, your ability to rebound and rise? Please share it with us in the comments below, where so much good stuff happens. Let us know how you activated that inner phoenix.